A few weeks ago, I went back to my hometown to make my own family's portrait. We shared an amazing weekend together in a beautiful hotel by the sea. And it gave me some insight in the way I have always been looking at LOVE.
Alain de Botton said, "One of the things that makes relationships so scary is we need to be weak in front of other people. And most of us are just experts at being pretty strong."
I bet it describes very well the relationship with LOVE for many of us: We know that love is all we need while trying to be strong and independent because we believe we HAVE to when we are adults. It is this self-defence mechanism that makes us fail so often in communication in every relationship, even within a family.
Carrying one of her young sleeping children in her arms, my brother's wife said, "Kids are so cute. When they sleep they just let their whole body go, knowing that you will be there to carry them. When we grow up we don't sleep like that anymore."
Kids trust their parents. They know that they can totally rely on them, be weak in front of them while still remain loved by them. When we become adults it becomes really hard to kneel down in front of our shortcomings and admit that, after all, we just want to be loved.
I took this photo when I was having a walk with my family by the sea. My brother was carrying his daughter who had just fallen asleep. He stopped to look at the water. I said, "Don't move." and took this picture. I hope you like the dreamy and soothing touch of this image. For me it says a lot about letting go, loving someone and being loved.
This little kid is still too young to realise the power of this portrait. But I hope that it will be part of her sweet personal treasure when she grows older.